The Challenge of Marital Communication (Genesis 3:16)

“Your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you.”

This verse is the expression of a curse. The marital “desire” the wife has for her husband is now twisted out of shape by sin, and the nature of the husband’s “rule” is also tainted. The curse has greatly complicated marital communication. Because of sin marital communication now involves not only a quest for understanding one another but also a habitual mortification of the flesh. The husband must be willing to “die to self” as he listens to his wife.

 To love your wife means being a good listener (I Corinthians 13)

“Love…does not seek its own, is not provoked…”

According to the Bible love is a verb, an action. Our love to our wives is expressed in how we treat them and in how we communicate with them. Good communication is a part of a good marital relationship. Every husband should seek to love his wife by learning to listen to her. So the question arises: how should he listen to her?

Husbands should listen sacrificially. (Eph. 5:25)

…even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…”

The Scriptures put before the husband the example of Jesus Christ. He was willing to sacrifice Himself in order to obtain His bride the Church. The husband must be willing to do this as well. Husbands should be willing to sacrifice their own personal desires in order to communicate with their wives. Sacrifice means you willingly give something up in order to accomplish the greater purpose of the will of God.

Husbands should listen with sensitivity. (Eph. 5:28)

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.”

Every man knows when he has a stomach ache or pulled a muscle in his back.  He’s sensitive to the needs of his body. And the Scriptures tell us he should also be sensitive in this way to his wife. He can practice this sensitivity by listening to his wife carefully and willingly in order to ascertain her physical, spiritual and emotional needs.